When: Tuesday, August 26 7-9 PM

Where: Heritage Hall

Don’t miss our annual fall kick off event! You will come away with plenty of information on Louisville, including tips on places to go, medical service recommendations, and fun family activities at the seminary and around the city. There will be food samples from area vendors and lots of fabulous door prizes! Whether you are new to Louisville or a seasoned resident, you will be able to meet new people and develop friendships through small group discussion. Come join us for this exciting evening of fellowship.

We look forward to seeing you in Heritage Hall at 7pm!
Pendergraph Women’s Ministry Board

Karen Cheong is our faculty liaison for Pendergraph this year and has been such a joy (plus a whole lot of fun!) to work alongside. Cheryl Watson interviewed her recently:

Tell us about your husband and his role at Southern Seminary:

Dr. Robert Cheong is Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling at Boyce. He also teaches Introduction to Biblical Counseling in Seminary Wives Institute. Together, we have counseled hundreds of couples over the last 10 years in pre-marital counseling and also couples in marriage counseling over the last 5 years.

When were you married?

July 30, 1983.

Tell us about your children:

Ashley (23 ½) just married in July to Jesse. Ryan (19 ½) and Whitney (18 ½) are both in college in Lexington.

What is your favorite Louisville restaurant?

Ramsi’s and Avalon (Both are on Bardstown Road)

Describe the occasion of your conversion:

I did not grow up in a Christian home. I attended Catholic schools, went to mass on special holidays, and thought Jesus was “the man on the cross.” Years later, I prayed the sinner’s prayer and was baptized. I had a “head knowledge” but not a relationship with Jesus Christ. Years passed, and Robert and I came to Southern as students. Our first year at Southern was our 13th year of marriage and the hardest year of our marriage. We weren’t sure it would survive. At the end of that first year, the Lord saved me! I recognized I was a sinner, in need of a Savior, confessed my sinfulness to my husband and the Lord, and called upon the name of Jesus as Lord and Savior.

There was a definite change in who I was! The morning following my conversion, I woke up and for the first time in many years, I was physically hungry- and it was okay! You see, I struggled with an eating disorder for many, many years and the Lord rescued me from the bondage of this sin- in an instant! Not only did I have a physical hunger, but I have a hunger for God like I never had before! I wanted to know God and wanted to study His Word! And this began my sweet journey with my Lord as a Believer in the Lord Jesus! Praise Him!

Where do you and your husband attend church?

We attend Sojourn Community Church where Robert is one of the staff pastors. I appreciate so much that the Gospel is at the center of every ministry at Sojourn! I also appreciate the authenticity of the members and their desire for truth to be spoken in love to one another! There is also a deep hunger for the Truth of God’s Word to be taught.

In what ways do you most enjoy serving in the church?

I absolutely love the opportunity and privilege to help women grown in their intimate relationship with Christ! This can be done in disciplining relationships where hearts are shared and truth is spoken in love to one another. And in the teaching and studying of God’s Word together.

What are you currently reading?

How People Change and Relationships: A Mess Worth Making. These are both counseling books by Tim Lane and Paul Tripp.

Why did you get involved with Pendergraph Board this year?

12 years ago I was a part of this ministry as a student wife. I just loved the vision of Mrs. Pendergraph and the ministry that it provided to women. I really respect and love Mrs. Pendergraph and felt a strong desire to be apart of this ministry again as a faculty wife so many years later. The Lord definitely led me to the faculty liaison position on the Pendergraph Women’s Ministry Board this year.

Do you have any words of encouragement for the women at Southern and Boyce as they prepare for ministry?

Our God is a faithful God. He is always at work in us and through us! He knows our needs, our fears, and our hearts. Trust Him with all of those things! Draw near to God. His nearness is our goodness!

As Christian women, we know of our calling to mentor younger women. But this can seem like a daunting task when we don’t know how to start. This April, Jaylynn Cook will be speaking to us on the topic of mentoring, sharing with us the need for mentors, as well as some practical tips on where to begin. You will be encouraged and enriched by Mrs. Cook’s experiences and reflections on this important topic.

Tuesday, April 29

Heritage Hall 7-9 PM

There are many choices facing parents today on how to best raise their children, and one of the biggest decisions you might make is how to educate them. There are delights and dangers in each educational system, whether it is public, private, or home schooling. Dr. and Mrs. Wellum will help us to sort through several issues and think carefully and with a godly mindset about this important topic. Please join us for a great night of discussion and fellowship!

Heritage Hall 7-9 PM

Let’s face it—eating and body image can be touchy issues. But at our last event we were blessed to hear from David Kotter that there is a gospel centered way of approaching food, eating, and taking care of our bodies. Mr. Kotter illustrated how the issue of weight gain is one that is deeply impacting many Americans. This topic is one that we need to talk about.

The problem is that the energy we spend has become significantly less than what Americans used to spend—but our intake of energy (calories), i.e. food, has not decreased. So what happens to all that extra energy? It gets stored in our bodies as fat. Part of the problem is that the energy content of food has changed too. For example a baked potato has a couple hundred less calories than French fries. So while you may not be eating too much food, you might be eating a type of food that has huge amounts of energy, but since the activity level of many has not changed, the extra energy gets stored.

What does the gospel have to do with all this you might be asking yourself? Mr. Kotter asserted that the solution to overeating and weight gain is not to try diet after diet. He quickly illustrated the point that all throughout the Bible God deals with food. He cares about food and what we eat. Food is a blessing and gift from God. So what is the problem with overeating? God calls it gluttony and gluttony is sin and it has its root in our hearts. Call gluttony something else and there is no solution. But there is a solution for sin. Christ died to break the power of sin. So, we must recognize gluttony as sin and as an idol. When we look to food to give us satisfaction and joy instead of God we have placed food on the throne of our hearts. Mr. Kotter shared with us the truth that this sin needs to be repented of and our trust placed in Christ, rather than something we eat.

Mr. Kotter also shared with us some practical ideas on how to be good stewards of our bodies and food. Suggestions were to eat more high fiber foods and eat less high fat foods, increase your activity level, and be wise in choosing what foods to eat. He also suggested looking at the recipes you make and see if there are ways to lower the fat content. He cautioned us, though, to not allow exercise become a different idol in our lives.

Overall this was such an encouraging time to think about the gift of food that God has given us and to be spurred on to enjoy His gifts but to not practice idolatry. Being reminded of the gospel’s impact on this area of our lives was especially refreshing. We are grateful to Mr. Kotter for stirring our minds and hearts with this message!

Amidst the chatter of many other conversations, the pitter patter of children moving about, and the atmosphere of people enjoying fellowship, Gretchen Wright and I sat down to chat after a Wednesday night service. Gretchen is married to Dr. Shawn Wright, who teaches classes in Church History at Southern. They have five boys, Benjamin, 14; Jonathan, 13; Aaron, 10; Nathan, 6; and Stephen, 4. She could be considered a veteran wife, mom, and disciple of Christ. Here’s a peek at our conversation!

Tell me about your conversion.

I grew up in a non-Christian family. We were church attendees but it didn’t go much beyond that and the church that we went to did not preach the Gospel. There were two events that “triggered” my conversion. The first was that in junior high my parents got divorced. That rocked my foundation and made me start to have a lot of questions. The second thing was that the town I grew up in was right next to the town that Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary was in, so our church had a lot of different seminary students that would volunteer helping out with the youth. There was a seminary student that shared the gospel with me. I don’t really remember a specific time that I was instantly converted, but it was more of a gradual process of understanding and accepting the Gospel. My sister became a believer a little before I did and I remember her influencing my spiritual growth at this time too. I was starting to read in Matthew early on in my conversion and I remember thinking, “Is this genealogy stuff all there is?” My sister pointed me to start reading in John instead! The youth group and my college years were very influential in my initial spiritual growth.

You and your family attend Clifton Baptist Church. Tell me what you appreciate most about the body of Christ there?

Oh, wow—so many things. One would be the constant reminder of why trusting in Christ is so needed. I love the humility of the church that is always saying, “We need Christ.” I love Tom’s (Schreiner) preaching that gives me such an understanding of scripture from clear preaching.

In what ways do you enjoy serving at church?

Well it has changed over the years as needs have changed. Right now I am involved in women’s ministry. I am currently, with another lady from church, meeting weekly with 12 women from the church. We are reading Holiness by Dorian Chapel and Instruments in the Redeemers Hands by Paul David Tripp. There are so many seminary wives at church and it is great to help equip them to be not confident in themselves, but confident in Christ.

Are you currently reading useful books?

Yes, I am reading Communion with God by John Owen. It’s an abridged version and a much easier read than the original. And it’s very good. It is about focusing on who Christ is and the benefits of the Gospel.

Do you have a favorite text of Scripture?

Hmm…can I have a whole book in the Bible?

Well sure!

I would have to say Colossians. In our Bible study, we are memorizing portions of Colossians and it is such a good book, because it tells us who we are, who Christ is, and how to live out the Gospel.

Do you have any helpful hints for memorizing Scripture?

I try to memorize portions of Scripture. I think it is better to get the whole idea of passages, not just a verse here and a verse there. I try to break the passage that I am trying to memorize down into chunks. I write the verses down on index cards and will flip through them as I am memorizing. I find that reviewing them while I shower is useful. My goal is to memorize one verse a week, but I will take the time to review what I am memorizing, so there are weeks when I am just reviewing what I have been memorizing.

How and when do you have a quiet time?

I find that fighting distractions is the hardest part of my quiet time. I find that I will be thinking about the grocery list, or what is next on my list to get done, or I’ll think about certain situations and either how I reacted or how I was hurt. So working on focusing my mind has been a tough challenge. I try to review the verses I am working on while I am in the shower and then when I get out of the shower I will read a portion from whatever devotional book I am currently reading. I will then read a portion of Scripture and then try to pray in response to what I have been reading and meditating on. I have found that writing notes as I am reading helps me to focus too.

Do you do this before your kids get up?

Oh yes, that’s my goal.

Do you have a particular way of organizing what you are praying for?

Yes, I have certain things that I pray for each day of the month. So, for example, on one day I’ll pray for health concerns of people in the church, the people in my small group, and then maybe a larger concept for the church. Then on another day I will be praying for the ladies in the Bible study and certain family concerns. I have found it very helpful to break it up like this; it’s better than having a running list of prayer concerns, because I feel like I can be more focused in my prayers and also not be praying all day long!

Did you have struggles with having a quiet time when all your children were really young, and looking back on that time, what do you wish you had done differently?

It was a struggle to have a consistent quiet time when all my kids were younger. I wish that I had realized more that God’s love for me was not conditioned on my having a quiet time. I wish I had meditated on His unconditional love, because this would have helped me to love him more and it would have helped me to have a desire to spend time with Him.

Do you have a particular story from your life that would be encouraging to the women of Boyce and Southern as they prepare for ministry?

For a period of about 10 years, especially when the kids were little, I had forgotten the Gospel. I lived in a legalistic way—doing certain things to get God to make circumstances go my way. I didn’t know that I was living this way until I was brought out of living like this. We lived in Turkey for a period of time and while we were there Shawn and I, along with a few others, were reading God’s Lesser Glory by Bruce Ware. I looked up all the Scripture references about who God is and it was like the scales on my eyes were peeled off. I began to see how big God is and how small I am and how I have to depend on Christ for salvation. I couldn’t look to my merits or works to manipulate God. I feel like a broken record, because I think most of my answers to your questions have been the Gospel, but the Gospel is SO important.

What advice do you have for the women preparing to be wives of ministers?

I think a lot of women feel pressure about being a pastor’s wife. Be yourself. Be willing to be honest and humble about where you struggle. This is a great example and you will lead more people to trust in Christ this way than trying to be perfect. Don’t think that you have to fulfill a certain set of duties. Ministry is going to look different for different people. The main point is to support your husband.

So do you have practical advise about how women should submit to their husbands?

Ultimately we have to trust God that he will lead our husbands, and even if mistakes are made it is our responsibility as women to trust that God is providentially guiding our husbands and our life. We need to remember that we are not in control. Because of what Ephesians 5 says and because Christ submitted to the Father, I can trust my husband. I don’t know if it’s just me, or all women, but I am really controlling. So we need to remember that God is in control.

What would you say to all those moms out there who are wondering how the Gospel gives practical guidance in disciplining children?

Hmm. That’s a great question. I think I try to communicate to my children that my love for them is not conditioned on what they do, just as God’s love for us is not conditioned on what we do. I want my children to do what is right because it is right and it brings them blessing. I make a point to tell my children after I have disciplined them that I love them because they are my boys. My love for them does not mean they will not be disciplined though! I use the opportunity to tell them that they are in need of a Savior—the discipline does not make their heart clean.

In closing, just for fun, what is your favorite restaurant in Louisville?

(She laughs in answering) With five kids we don’t eat out much, so if we do, our favorite restaurant becomes whichever one we have a gift certificate to!

Tuesday, February 26

Do you struggle with eating too much? Or not eating enough? Can food sometimes be a tyrant that dominates your thoughts? David Kotter, Executive Director of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, will address these questions and help us learn to practically eat for the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31), be content with the good gift of food, and increasingly hunger for God himself.

Heritage Hall 7-9 PM.

On Friday, January 29th, Pendergraph hosted Jessica Joslin, who spoke on financial stewardship. Besides being the wife of a Boyce College professor, Jessica is a financial officer for a local church; in addition to that, she has two children - making her very qualified to speak to us on this topic. She spoke about the significance of planning how we spend money, paying off debts, and specific ways to keep track of our expenditures. All of the principles she supported with Scripture, and many in attendance found that they applied to more than just money. We also appreciated how she specifically applied these principles to both single and married women, showing how neither have an excuse to be lazy about how we steward the money God has given us. Thank you, Jessica!

Thank you also to all of the women who presented their home businesses to us!

Let’s face it…
we are all in a time of our lives where finances are tight. You may be a student wife working to support your husband, a stay at home mom trying to find creative ways to supplement your family’s income, or a student yourself, paying your way through school. At some point or another, all of us will probably feel the strain of finances. Jessica Joslin will be speaking to us on January 29, giving us some practical tips on how to budget and stretch the money we do have, so that we can be wise stewards with what God has entrusted to us. We will end the evening with a home business showcase that you won’t want to miss!

Heritage Hall 7-9 PM